What a Southern Belle Needs

What a Southern Belle Needs

The other day I got a call from a friend in need.  A beautiful, well-educated, clueless friend from New Jersey.  She said she’d met a great guy, early forties, never been married, and very attractive.  He seemed to like her a lot whenever they got together, but they didn’t get together enough to suit her.  “What should I do?” my Yankee friend asked.
     “Well, if he’s in his early forties and never been married, he’s not likely to be impetuous.”
     “I should let him take his time?”
     “Until you get bored and decide to move on.  It might be OK to invite him to a small party at your house or tell him you have an extra ticket to a baseball game, but you have to actually give a party or buy tickets.”
     “Then I shouldn’t I tell him I need more attention?”  
I was floored by the question.  
I explained that when you tell a man you need something, he hears:  she has a problem and it’s up to me to fix it.  And if he can’t fix it or believes it’s too much of a commitment, he’s out of there.
I made up a new rule on the spot:
Before a man commits, the only need a Southern Belle can safely admit to is help moving a heavy object from one place to another.
     Rule Number 205, The Southern Belle’s Handbook
     Moving a heavy object will give him a chance to flex his muscles and a chance for you to admire them.  Of course, if he’s mechanical you may safely ask him to help you set up an electrical appliance, but not a computer.  That takes real commitment.  
     Agree?  Disagree?  Let me know at loraine@LoraineDespres.com